Are you the most super YOU that it’s possible to be?

Submissive Journey Weekend is the type of place where you can ask this kind of question, and begin to look for an answer inside yourself. And maybe along your journey’s way, you’ll say the exact thing someone else needed to hear so that they, too, could figure this out for themselves.

This year’s theme is all about Superheroes. No, not the kind you read about in the comics or see on the big screen. I’m talking about the type of Superheroes you see in real life, on Facebook, on FetLife, at your local slosh, at BDSM events. The type of Superhero you see when you look in the mirror.

WHAT? What do you mean you don’t see a Superhero when you look in the mirror? How is that even possible!!! Come to SJW and let us show you how we experience you. Come be around people who see the everyday superhero in everyone, the people who know you struggle and yet still appreciate the way you pitched in to help clean up after the last event. Luxuriate in a super cabin while exploring all the super-ness inside you…and those around you.

My Lesson This Month

By talina{ZAR}

I have a check-in group of close buddies. We share our goals and struggles and successes via email, as we all work to live healthier lifestyles. I’m learning WAY more than I did before I participated in this group, because I’m doing more reflection through their eyes, and through the process of sharing my information, instead of keeping it all in my head.

Two months ago, my lesson was about keeping my eye on the big picture, instead of getting bogged down in the daily details. Go for the batting average!! Got it!

My lesson for last month was about learning that doing more isn’t always the best solution. Sometimes, the appropriate action is to do less. And DOING less doesn’t mean that I’m WORTH less. Got it!

Well, let the learning process continue!

My lesson for this month is about knowing that my best is acceptable. And that what constitutes “my best” is a moving object, because “my best” is not the same this week as it was last week. And will most likely be different than next week.

Last week I faced HUGE challenges, as I worked 12- to 16-hour days on a special project. Great for making money; horrible for getting exercise and walking my dogs. This week I’m facing challenges with weather-related depression and lethargy. Great for eating fewer calories; horrible for motivating myself.

So, this week, my best is walking my dogs every day, because I want to be outside as much as possible. Eating less than my allowed calories (even if it is because of lethargy). And not giving a fuck about whether or not my teeth get brushed after lunch. And skipping cardio exercise, while still doing strength training.

Okay, so when compared against my goals, my best doesn’t look good enough. It looks downright pitiful. Until I got this email.

“Doing your best at this exact moment is stellar!” – [my friend]

What? Doing my best is stellar? Are you sure? Cuz my goal sheet says otherwise.
That’s when I realized that my friend has something my goal sheet doesn’t – compassion.

Compassion allows us to recognize that each of us doing our best is not only good enough – it’s stellar! Doing our best is the absolute highest we can ask of ourselves. If I can’t see that as stellar, I need to adjust my thinking. And so I am working on that. I recognize my goal sheet for what it is – a piece of paper. When I created that paper, I fully believed I could achieve each one of those goals – and I could have, if life had stayed exactly the same.

Reality, on the other hand, has dictated a different path. Life didn’t stay the same, and my goals now seem unattainable. Well, some of them, anyway. What’s more important, though, is that the goals now look LESS IMPORTANT. I started the month thinking that attaining my goals was the important thing.

Now, thanks to my friend, I realize that doing my best is the important thing. While it’s nice to achieve my goals, it’s really just a way to measure myself. And if I don’t add compassion into the mix when I’m measuring myself, then I’m doing myself a disservice.

So, I may or may not achieve all the goals written on my goal sheet this month. I really will try to do so. However, if I don’t, my world will not come crashing down around my ears. Right here and now, I admit to being fully human. I accept that being human (rather than mechanical) means that I am unpredictable, that people and circumstances around me are unpredictable, and that life isn’t always going to be an exciting ride. Sometimes, the ride’s going to be bumpy, and I’m going to need to adjust to the changing terrain.

So, today, I am struggling with recognizing my best as stellar. Until I can truly hold that belief in my heart, I’m going to borrow my friend’s faith, and know that she sees my best as stellar, and that’s good enough for me right now.

We have 2018 Dates!

We know you have all been anxiously awaiting the dates for this year and we finally have them to give! SJW 2018 will be August 16-19th and we will be in Pigeon Forge, TN.

Hold onto your hats kids because the early bird price for this year is $200 until May 1st. After May 1st the price will go to $225. Attendance this year will be capped at 40 people so get your registration in sooner rather than later! The first floor of the cabin is handicap accessible this year. We are working toward becoming more accessible as we grow. Below are a few pictures of the new cabin.

We can’t wait to see you all on the mountain!


We need YOUR help for the website!

If you have attended SJW in the past, what we need from you if you are willing to help out, is a comment, recommendation or reference (however you think of it) for a new section of “Notes from Attendees”. We want new folks who come to the website and the mountain to be able to hear from previous attendees. They can read about what the experience was like for you, what you came away with, any tips you have, etc. If you wish to include your name/Fetlife name with your note, please sign the note as you want your name to appear.

Please email them to:

We hope you are doing well and thriving!

Your SJW Team

Sailing from Fear to Fierce in 2018!

How do you sail out of the turbulence of fear into the waters of being fierce in living our lives? This year we will be exploring and shaping our resilience. This trait isn’t simply about strength as many people think. Resilience is actually very flexible and speaks to heart, malleability, adaptability, suppleness and the ability to bounce back. That’s just the tip of the treasure bounty when you look into the depths of resilience! We often look at the fortitude of others and overlook our own because it doesn’t look like that of those we admire for their endurance. There is so much that we overlook in our own power of perseverance that can be tapped into in order to help us be fabulously fierce. Let’s explore our resilience together and help each other discover the fierceness of spirit we all possess on some level!


Don’t Despair, We Are Working Hard On 2018!

We know you are all excited and anxious for the 2018 dates; we are too. We haven’t forgotten and are working hard to get dates and location set up.

As many of you know the fires earlier this year in Tennessee created cabin and scheduling issues out of our control. We got the cabin that we could at the time but it was definitely not a good fit for us. So, we are scouring locations and gathering information once again to try and find a place that suits our needs; chief among them being handicap accessible and having appropriate class space. We listened to your feedback in from the surveys and what you have told us directly and are working to make as much as possible come to fruition.

We can tell you that it looks as though we will be having SJW in the fall again in 2018. We are working to have the location and dates for you by the end of January so that you can start planning too!

We appreciate your patience with us as we go through the location changes and grow; you all are awesome in your support!

In service,
Cricket, Mags, Talina & Zilah

2018 Presenters


Alex (or Gayla depending on when and where you met) is a gender queer, poly, switch who became active in the BDSM community in 2001 after a number of years in  more private settings. Together with the Owner ( Sir Nicholas )for the last 11+ years,  they have presented &/or volunteered, emceed & judged at clubs and events throughout AL, GA, most of the rest of the south east and beyond. Alex currently helps coordinate the volunteers for Frolicon & continues to find joy in it. Alex’s boy, Frankie, has been in service for over 8 years and when not balancing two partners, two kids, a full time job and random other things, Alex is a list maker, craft addict, dances with the Firefly Nights Belly Dance Troupe, teaches Body Inclusive yoga  and considers color coded spreadsheets a fetish. Besides the ‘nilla stuff, Alex enjoys rough body play, service in all it’s forms, & mind fucks from either side of the equation.



Chell is from the Charlotte NC area and has been active in the lifestyle since 2005, but has been kinky most of her life. She has been married to her husband Stick for over 20 years and they have been poly for over a decade of that time. Chell volunteers in her local community, usually for her home group of CAPEX.  She has taught at SJW and ran the Charlotte Poly Munch for a few years.  She gravitates towards the identity of slave in the lifestyle, when she is with a partner that inspires that, but believes relationships should flow and progress naturally, instead of being forced. She believes in the strength of submission and enjoys discussions with other s-types of what it all means for them.




Crys, aka Crystalia, is a bisexual gender-fluid Leather person who calls the Atlanta community home. S/he began studying eroticized leather care shortly after finding the BDSM community in 2010 and has been publicly manning the stands since 2015.

S/he is an adventurer and truth seeker with a service heart. Traveling the country and attending conferences to provide service for the Leather community grounds them. Spending time with Leather folk, their tribe, and chosen family feeds their soul.

S/he is on a path of recovery; focusing on self-growth and awareness. Their interests include relationship dynamics and development, spiritual connection, and advancement of skills. S/he flags black/purple on the right; gray/red in the middle.



mycalyne lives in Birmingham, Alabama with her Master (SirThomas205) of 14 years. She identifies as a 24/7 slave, bootblack, and Leather woman. Her home dungeon is The Red Chair and currently serves as co-chair of the Submissive Roundtable, a Counsel of Tribes certified DM and is active in the ambassador program to welcome new members.  She is the founder of NEWK (New Experiences With Kink), a local group focusing on giving people who have been in the kinky community for 5 years or less a safe place to learn and get their questions answered without feeling like a newbie.  She also is a founding member of Girl Power, a group that empowered women on either side of the slash, and CABLE (Central Alabama Birmingham Leather Enthusiasts) where she serves as the unofficial treasurer.



slave sheri

slave sheri resides in Lenoir, North Carolina and has been in the Leather/BDSM community for several years. She is honored to be the collared slave of Master Blue and is a member of his leather household, La Cosa Nostra. slave sheri spends her time traveling to visit various leather/bdsm groups, events, and leather club bar nights across North Carolina, the South East, and various other parts of the Country. She is a full patch member, current Treasurer and Road Captain for the Appalachian Women of Leather (AWOL), Co-Director of MAsT Lenoir, Co-Producer of Master slave Reflections and the current Client Services Director for the Leather Heart Foundation. She served on the board as Public Relations Chair for SouthEast LeatherFest for 3 years. She has served as the Volunteer Coordinator and Vendor Coordinator assistant for the Leather History Conference. Outside the leather/bdsm community, slave sheri serves as a Guardian Ad Litem, volunteers for a local LGBTQ youth group and a women’s shelter. slave sheri is passionate about volunteering and education. You can usually find her helping out wherever she can during an event.



Trinity (writergirl on FetLife) is a published author and kink educator living in Atlanta,GA. She has been involved with the lifestyle in some capacity since 1993, having been drawn primarily by the mental, d/s side of things. She identifies as polyamorous, is married, and is the s-type in a Master/slave relationship, separate from her husband. She’s taught multiple kink-related topics across the Southeast at major events, dungeons, and local groups in Atlanta, GA, Nashville, TN, Tampa, FL, Baton Rouge, LA, as well as Alabama and North and South Carolina.
 You can find her at and you can check out her books on Amazon at


zilah is a service oriented submissive, interspiritual minister, and mental health professional. zilah’s passions and experiences include a deep love for personal connective service and the ways in which service, transparency, and communication can be a cornerstone of spiritual practice. She also has experience in butler/valet functions and likes to share a variety of concrete skills in addition to communication based tools.

zilah has been active in the public scene for 9 years. For three years she acted as a co-moderator for Off The Cuff and Newbie Night in Fort Lauderdale, as well as being in service to various Vanguard Leather Events there. 


2018 Classes

Assertive Submission

Taught by Crys-talia

In our community, respected s-types are strong, independent, and assertive people. In stark contrast, our first introduction is often the mainstream portrayal featuring a s-type character whose boundaries resembles that of a doormat. How do we transition from the mainstream archetype to being the strong, capable, assertive s-types we and our community need? The skills we will cover in this session will help bridge the gap from being walked on to being led forward.


Being in Service- To Yourself

Taught by Chelle

Service classes are usually about learning certain skills or ways of coping, while serving another. We never really talk about serving ourselves. Self care and self love, being your own master, these topics can seem foreign when talking about submission and service. But what if you are not in a dynamic? What if you are unowned but still have a desire to serve? I say, learn to be your own master and be in service to yourself. In this class we will discuss ways to do just that.


Don’t lose your s#!+!

Taught by Alex

Practical tips and tricks for managing stressful situations without losing it (& possibly pissing off your M/D/O type person!) This will include simple restorative yoga poses, breathing techniques & other ways to refocus your attention & intention.

This class will be hands on and participants can be seated on chairs or floor. No equipment needed.


Finding Organization in a Disorganized World

Taught by mycalyne

Ever feel frustrated because you just can’t seem to find that item you’re looking for you’re about to cook a special dinner or bake a dessert only to find you don’t have all the ingredients you just knew you had in the pantry, over schedule yourself or just think your life is in utter chaos?  Organization could very possibly be that friend who has been missing from your life.  This class is all about putting things in order so you can make life a little less stressful.


Giving Back: Serving Our Community

Taught by Crys-talia

We love our community. In it, we have find kindred spirits; we feed our souls; we develop a deeper understanding of ourselves. All of which is facilitated by community members.

The folks in the spotlight typically get the credit, but its the folks behind the scenes getting shit done for a common goal.  This community wouldn’t exist without the hard work and dedication of amazing people. Just. Like. You! So, how can you give back?

You want to do more than just attend events, but you aren’t sure where to begin. Or, volunteering at conventions just doesn’t feel you’re giving enough to the community anymore. In this collaborative discussion, we will talk about how to utilize our current skill sets and different ways to serve our community.


Hey Mirror, Mirror…F@&K You!

Taught by Alex

Objects in the mirror may not match what’s in your head…and we all experience it. We will be talking about our own journey with body image, body dysmorphic issues and the things we go through a world where the price of beauty can be far more costly than we imagine.

Please note that this class is open to everyone as a safe space and no shaming of any kind will be allowed.


Learning to Say No

Taught by redmara

Saying no is one of the biggest challenges an s-type can face. Learning to say no to a prospective play offer, saying no to the community demanding too much of your time, and the ever dreaded- saying no to your d-type can be an invaluable skill. This class focuses on various tips and tricks to empower us to say no. We will cover how to use posture, protocol and Voice to get our will across in a polite manner (and also tips on when and how to not be so polite!)


More Than a Diagnosis – Training the brain for self-acceptance

Taught by Crys-talia

Many of us have diagnoses. They are physical, mental, emotional, or some combination of all three. Although society has trained us to feel we are limited by them, we are only limited by the fear of being ourselves. In this class, we will touch on different methods to retrain your brain to accept your authentic self.


Navigating the Waters: M/s in a Long Distance Relationship

Taught by Trinity

Can a long distance M/s or D/s relationship endure? What are the challenges and what are the rewards? We’ll discuss ways to remain in the submissive or slave mindset, how to communicate needs and how to be of service when not physically in the presence of your m- or d-type. We’ll also talk about the mental transition from being mostly autonomous when apart to being in his/her presence for face to face visits. D-type topics will cover how to keep the D/s or M/s mindset both for yourself as well as your s-type, including small things that reinforce the dynamic when separated, such as tasks, as well as other tools.


Responsibilities of the Wounded Submissive

Taught by zilah

This class addresses how to determine needs and limitations for submissives who may have more barriers to engaging in S/m or D/s safely. The primary focus will be on navigating trauma history, but the self awareness and communication skills discussed can be applied to needs due to chronic illness, long term stress, or getting temporary support for personal crisis.


Rituals and Protocols

Taught by mycalyne

Rituals and Protocols can play an important role in D/s relationships. This class discusses what rituals and protocols are and how they can enhance your relationship.  We’ll also talk about some common and not so common practices and how to put them in place.


Service Snafus

Taught by redmara

We all like to think that our service is impeccable. We all strive for perfection -whether it is laying out a perfect dinner for 20 or simply trying to get the laundry done. But sometimes life throws a monkey wrench in our plans. So, what do you do when service doesn’t go as planned? How can we develop safeguards and coping skills to help us get through perceived service failures? How can we communicate with our D-types to manage expectations, and what tools can we use to keep track of everything we need to get done?


Taking Care of Business

Taught by slave sheri

Benjamin Franklin said, “For every minute spent organizing, an hour is earned.” It’s a rare person among us who doesn’t feel the need to get more organized. Some people call slave sheri JOTs, which is a nickname her Master gave her because she has what he called “Johnny On the Spot syndrome”. She is a self-proclaimed Excel spreadsheet whore and loves lists and organizational plans and everything that comes with them. It can seem overwhelming to start a system to organize your life, but it doesn’t have to be. Join her while she shows you the systems she uses to stay on track with her busy schedules from work, home, travel, and family. We will look at small things you can do to start channeling the chaos into hours earned.


The Art of Belly Dancing as a Service

Taught by Alex

Entertain your partner & have fun learning some basic moves & combos to dance to! No sense of rhythm or dance experience required…just bring yourself, your sense of adventure & learn how to captivate & entertain your audience! This class is open to all genders!


The Year of Living Uncomfortably (YoLU)

Taught by Trinity

Living is easy. Living uncomfortably is hard. Fear and discomfort often cause us to make the easy choices in life, but it is when we face difficulty and when we overcome fear that we grow. I made a conscious decision at the beginning of 2010 to live uncomfortably. While it’s been difficult sometimes, I’ve found myself growing and becoming more comfortable in my own skin in ways I wouldn’t have thought possible.

This gathering is going to be more of a round-table discussion focusing on how we face our fears, process our discomfort, and step outside our boxes in order to live uncomfortably. If you’re embarking on a new chapter of your life or simply want to force growth within yourself then this round table is where you want to be. Come out, listen, share, and live uncomfortably with us!


To Thine Own Self Be True

Taught by slave sheri

This is a class that helps you identify what you are seeking and what your expectations are. We have to know ourselves if we are going to be successful at any relationship. This class will have a workshop style set up and will help each person to identify their authentic self. We will try to determine what are your deal breakers vs your wish list. What are your strengths and where are your opportunities for improvement.


When It’s Time

Taught by Trinity

Ending relationships is rarely easy, but for s-types it can be more challenging than usual. We tend to internalize loyalty and devotion to such a degree that stepping back and looking at the relationship objectively can be incredibly difficult. But sometimes, it needs to be done. Sometimes a d/s or m/s relationship has become unhealthy and there’s nothing we can do to make it better. Sometimes, we have to leave. But how do we get there? What if we’re making the wrong decision? How can we know this is the right thing to do?

This session isn’t a means to advocate leaving a relationship. The goal is to provide tools which can be used to help determine whether staying in the relationship is more unhealthy than ending it. In this class, we’ll talk about the difference between needs and wants and how to tell them apart. We’ll talk about effective communication. We’ll discuss how to make the hard decisions: when conditions are better to stay and when it’s really time to just let it go.


You’ve Been Served

Taught by slave sheri

This presentation looks at service and helps you identify are you serving yourself or your owner? We will talk about things slave sheri struggles with and things she and Blue do to overcome these struggles. We will look at anticipatory service and discuss why it fails so often. We will talk about fantasy vs. reality and how essential trust and communication are in finding enjoyment in your giving and receiving service.