2019 Classes

Being in Service to Yourself

Presented by Chell

There are many classes/demos offered to s-types to teach how to be in service to their communities or their d-types. Everything from learning a specific skill to maintaining a certain head space while serving another. But what happens when the submissive or slave does not have anyone to serve? In this class I will share how I became in service to myself, doing all the things I wanted to do but never did because I was in relationships and focused on my partners. In doing so there was growth and self actualization, learning who I am as a person and a slave, what drives me, what sustains me, and how I can bring all these experiences into whatever relationship I happen to have in the future.

Erecting a Wall: How to Create Boundaries

Presented by Chell

This class is a work in progress but will discuss what boundaries are, how to incorporate and enforce them, and how to know when to revisit them.

BDSM ETIQUETTE

Presented by talina{ZAR}

Learn etiquette that will get you through any BDSM social engagement. Feel confident in your ability to navigate the protocol-filled waters of both formal and informal events. Most of all, realize that you already know quite a bit about how to do this! After we discuss etiquette, we’ll role-play common situations.

The Modern Courtesan

Presented by Jouet

The honest courtesan was an Italian turn of phrase for one who provided companionship and intellectual stimulation in addition to carnal pleasures. This type of role – one who provides amusement for the mind as well as the body- can often be very similar to the geisha archetype and the iconic image of the “pleasure slave”. Let’s discuss how this type of service can thrive in a modern day dynamic.

Alignment of Personality Styles

Presented by Jouet

What happens when the servant is hyper-organized, and the owner is more laid back? Is it possible for the two personalities to peacefully align when the person serving is more proactive than the person setting the direction? Let’s discuss how to gracefully align one’s will to serve another who may have different priorities, approaches, methods and motivations.

Building Sustainability in Authority Based Dynamics

Presented by Jouet

After the initial glow of the collar fades and the New Relationship Energy fades, we often see many relationships burn out – often within the initial 2-3 years. It is possible to intentionally create a relationship and power dynamic that is ‘breathable’ enough to endure the challenges that everyday life brings. Topics discussed will include communication, sustainable rule structure, prevention of ‘autopilot’ service or dominance, and coping mechanisms that preserve the dynamic in place instead of requiring a “time out” from M/s or D/s.

Empowered Surrender

Presented by cricket girl

At some point even the most “seasoned” little letter people have doubts.   Is our role really the one we want to be in?  Are we clear about why we are where we are? Do we have moments in which we feel more like a doormat than a valued member of a healthy power exchange?  Is our surrender to the will of another genuine, or is it more giving up than giving in?

This workshop takes participants through a process of identifying ALL of our feelings around our role, and deciding how to choose from which feeling to act.  We will work to identify our own standards, take responsibility for our part in failures AND credit for achievements, and talk about assertive self advocacy.  Through this process, participants will gain a clearer understanding of where their power lies, even when authority is held by another, and how to use that power to move through moments of doubt.

Between our legs or between our ears?  Gender and Sexuality in a Pansexual Community

Presented by cricket girl

As groups strive to become increasingly open and welcoming, it is important that members understand how gender and sexuality develop, how they do and do not intersect, and how they impact the way that we move through the world as individuals.  This presentation uses simple language to explain gender and sexuality, giving attendees the opportunity to ask questions and share their own experiences, increasing compassion, understanding and respect.

How do you do that? – an interactive look at slave positions and protocol

Presented by slave adeena

Have you ever seen a slave serving a Master and thought it was a work of art?  Do they have secrets you don’t know about and want? This interactive presentation will look at how protocol can build your confidence and relationships on both sides of the slash.  We will build an atmosphere that will mentally and physically demonstrate you in your relationships by giving foundations in positions and the power they can have. 

It’s Monday now what? A look at everyday living.

Presented by slave adeena

Moving beyond the walls of the dungeon this interactive presentation will look at how you can Dominate or submit every day. We will facilitate discussion on how you can apply what you want in an everyday situation.  Can you Dominate in front of your boss? Can you submit in a Wal-Mart? Our discussion will help to have you look beyond the weekend in building you and your relationships.

Predator/Prey – building the animal within

Presented by slave adeena

Ever hear your animal and wonder about it?  What exactly is “primal play?” This presentation will take a look at your animal and build it to further your play.  Come and learn to safely build that animal within.

Service With a Smile

Presented by His_girl_Friday

We will discuss all the little things that we can do as service to the dominant or Master we serve. Many of the skills can also assist with organizing your personal life. We will cover a lot of material; attendees definitely come away with a golden nugget of information. Discussions regarding the mindset of service, and how to serve even when it’s not your cup of tea. Exploration of “101 Things Every Submissive Should Know” (with permission of the author).

Sharing the Love – An Introduction to Polyamory

Presented by His_girl_Friday

This class will discuss many of the basic terms used when talking about polyamory. We will go over topics such as “What is hierarchical vs non-hierarchical in poly.
What is “Veto” power. 
How do you find partners? 
Plus, other items that can be a part of your negotiations regarding polyamorous relationships. We will cover a lot of basic information and terminology, along with frank discussions about how these relationships can impact the dynamic between the dominant and the submissive. This class is meant to introduce you to some tools that may help you determine if poly is the right thing for you.  

Long Distance Service and Solutions

Presented by His_girl_Friday

Whether you live across country from your significant other, or across town. It can be hard as a submissive type to be away from that face to face power exchange. We will discuss methods and activities that can help those times apart continue to help your dynamic grow. From creating special rituals, protocols, or learning some self-play techniques. We will explore ways to continue growing your dynamic while you are apart from each other.

Basic Automotive Maintenance

Presented by Herb

In this brief service station, you will learn basic vehicle maintenance for you and your dominant. At the end of this class you will know:

1. What checks can make once a week and how to make them.
2. Have a maintenance schedule for longer periods of a month 3 months 6 months and 12 months.
3. How to read the warning lights on your car.
4. How to get your car’s computer checked for error codes and how to look up the lookup the error codes.
5. How to handle basic repairs such as changing a tire.

BEYOND THE SENSATIONS – the mental aspects of WIITWD 

Presented by Herb

Why do we do BDSM? What exactly is a power exchange relationship? What happens physically and energetically during a scene? Can BDSM be used as therapy? Yes, it can! This class is for those who want to delve into the mental aspects of WIITWD. Everyone will be asked to share ideas / concepts / questions.

Coming Out About Power Exchange

Presented by talina{ZAR}

Your mom asks why you’re always serving your partner. What do you say? When you decide it’s time to come out to your family, friends, co-workers, you want to start the conversation in a way that won’t shock them, and that will allow them to love and accept all of who you are. We will give you some proven techniques to help inform without shocking, and how to answer questions without feeling like you’re violating your own privacy.

2019 Presenters

2019 Presenters

Cricket

Cricket is a cisgender slave to Ms. Franki, and girl of Daddy Kieran. Introduced to Leather and kink 10 years ago, which feels like 5 minutes ago and forever, cricket is reminded every day that there is plenty more to learn. Dedicated to education and empowerment, cricket is a lifestyle presenter on gender and sexuality, effective communication, and the use of ritual for spiritual or relationship enrichment. Having reached the lighter end of the education tunnel, cricket is looking forward to completing a masters degree in Mental Health Counseling and continuing her service to the community offering internet based counseling to folks in non-traditional relationship structures.

Chell

Chell is from the Charlotte NC area and has been active in the lifestyle since 2005, but has been kinky most of her life. She has been married to her husband Stick for over 20 years and they have been poly for over a decade of that time. Chell volunteers in her local community, usually for her home group of CAPEX.  She has taught at SJW and ran the Charlotte Poly Munch for a few years.  She gravitates towards the identity of slave in the lifestyle, when she is with a partner that inspires that, but believes relationships should flow and progress naturally, instead of being forced. She believes in the strength of submission and enjoys discussions with other s-types of what it all means for them.

Herb

Herb has been out and active in the lifestyle since 2002 when he joined The Group on an outing to see “Secretary”. He had been on the fringes before that and has been in and out since. In that time he been a collared submissive and engaged in a variety of forms of physical play. He has taught and staffed Submissive Journey Weekend and been the service bitch to the SELF vendor room.

Jouet

Jouet’s been exclusively involved in authority-based dynamics for 25+ years. She is most comfortable with a deliberate inequality of status in her relationships, and finds being under someone’s thumb to be highly fulfilling. An epicurean and hedonist, Jouet believes in the shameless pursuit of pleasures and has a penchant for intense fear, sharp objects, and mindfuckery. She enjoys the psychological aspects of play, behavior modification and enslavement, and her service style is best described as: I am an invitation to pleasure and comfort. Jouet currently resides with her owner in Austin, Texas.

Mags

Mags is a gender fluid sadomasochist, owned amazon slave, pony owner and so much more: what you see is what you get! She is an Atlanta, GA native who still lives there with her Master and furry kids. With 30 years involved BDSM Mags truly believes there is still more to learn each day! Mags is a passionate educator, active member of the Bottoms Up Munch (B.U.M.) committee in Atlanta and an active member of Recovery in the Lifestyle (RitL), [12 step meetings for kinky folks]. Mags is hearing impaired and sometimes will miss things you say, so please do not be offended if you are asked to repeat something or Mags seems to not have heard you.

Mags has a large conglomeration of interests from spirituality, environmental studies, homesteading, Dr. Who, sci-fi, anthropology, psychology, music, reading odd scientific studies, death and grief in modern society, cars and so much more that have shaped much of who she is and how she serves. Mags likes to say that she brings a very odd set of skills to the table for her Master and her Daddy. Fortunately, they both like her weird! Mags is very keen about education and is an autodidact, a mentor, as well as a protégé and student herself. She believes that there are always opportunities to learn and grow, no matter how long we have been around!

slave adeena

slave adeena started her journey over… now a lady never tells her age!  slave adeena is a polyamorous, sapio and demi sexual with a love for authority exchange relationships.  The calling through her leather path grew her passion for protocol and rituals. slave adeenas’ service has taken many forms through the years.  slave adeena understands the value of a good listening ear, warm smile and hug and is always willing to give these to those that consent.

slave adeena has served as the 2017 International Person of Leather and the 2015 – 2016 Heartland Person of Leather.   She is a full member of Indiana Leather Club, associate member of Titans of the Midwest and supporting member of Blue Max CC St. Louis. She has presented and judged at various BDSM clubs and conventions throughout the United States and Canada.  she was a keynote speaker in Canada. slave adeena continues to grow with each encounter and is always looking for ways to cross lines and build communities.

his girl friday

Referred to by most as just “friday”. Friday has been involved in the Bdsm community since 2009, exploring many different paths. She identifies as a slave, and feels that connection continues to grow each year with more education and experience. For the past 9 years Friday has been hosting a fun activity “Kinky Networking” at various events and conferences.  The intent is to help attendees break the ice and make friends. Friday was a co-organizer with MAsT Greensboro for over two years. She also continues to enjoy taking part in MAsT Raleigh and MAsT Greensboro. In 2013 she started a group, Submissive Safe Haven. The group focuses on providing support and education to all s types. The group hosts quarterly submissive only sleepovers and a yearly weekend event.  

talina

talina has been in the lifestyle for over 20 years, and has been owned by Master Zarius since 2004, in a 24/7 Master/slave home. Their household model is based upon Gorean principles, including strong integrity, leadership and disciplinary practices, while leaving the fantasy elements of Gor behind. It is their goal for all participants in the house to be free to express themselves in a positive manner, putting forth ideas respectfully, and for each to participate in his/her own personal growth. They push each member to achieve their highest potential, while respecting personal boundaries.

A trained facilitator, talina has traveled to many parts of the country teaching classes on emotional intelligence, accountability, and life fulfillment. She has attended the MTTA slave training program, and staffs several events each year designed for s-type folks.

Many years of experience as a Little Letter Person has taught talina a multitude of skills in how to lead by example, rather than by directive. Emotional Intelligence and Personal Quality Awareness are key principles by which talina lives her life, and encourages others to find within themselves. Always eager to help those who wish to find more fun and fulfillment in their lives, talina can be found teaching and attending many large and small BDSM lifestyle events each year.

zilah

zilah is a service oriented submissive, inter-spiritual minister, and meditation/yoga instructor. Her passions and experiences include a deep love for personal connective service and the ways in which service, transparency, and communication can be a cornerstone of spiritual practice. She also has experience in butler/valet functions and likes to share a variety of concrete skills in addition to communication based tools. In recent years she has become extremely interested in green living, cooking, homesteading, and natural body care as well as traditional botanical remedies.

zilah has been active in the public scene for 10 years. For four years she acted as a co-moderator for Off The Cuff and Newbie Night in Fort Lauderdale, as well as being in service to various Vanguard Leather Events there. She currently lives in Atlanta and is pursuing graduate school for counseling. She hopes to focus on bringing compassionate care to under served populations including those of minority sexual and affectional orientations.

Are you the most super YOU that it’s possible to be?


Submissive Journey Weekend is the type of place where you can ask this kind of question, and begin to look for an answer inside yourself. And maybe along your journey’s way, you’ll say the exact thing someone else needed to hear so that they, too, could figure this out for themselves.

This year’s theme is all about Superheroes. No, not the kind you read about in the comics or see on the big screen. I’m talking about the type of Superheroes you see in real life, on Facebook, on FetLife, at your local slosh, at BDSM events. The type of Superhero you see when you look in the mirror.

WHAT? What do you mean you don’t see a Superhero when you look in the mirror? How is that even possible!!! Come to SJW and let us show you how we experience you. Come be around people who see the everyday superhero in everyone, the people who know you struggle and yet still appreciate the way you pitched in to help clean up after the last event. Luxuriate in a super cabin while exploring all the super-ness inside you…and those around you.

My Lesson This Month

By talina{ZAR}

I have a check-in group of close buddies. We share our goals and struggles and successes via email, as we all work to live healthier lifestyles. I’m learning WAY more than I did before I participated in this group, because I’m doing more reflection through their eyes, and through the process of sharing my information, instead of keeping it all in my head.

Two months ago, my lesson was about keeping my eye on the big picture, instead of getting bogged down in the daily details. Go for the batting average!! Got it!

My lesson for last month was about learning that doing more isn’t always the best solution. Sometimes, the appropriate action is to do less. And DOING less doesn’t mean that I’m WORTH less. Got it!

Well, let the learning process continue!

My lesson for this month is about knowing that my best is acceptable. And that what constitutes “my best” is a moving object, because “my best” is not the same this week as it was last week. And will most likely be different than next week.

Last week I faced HUGE challenges, as I worked 12- to 16-hour days on a special project. Great for making money; horrible for getting exercise and walking my dogs. This week I’m facing challenges with weather-related depression and lethargy. Great for eating fewer calories; horrible for motivating myself.

So, this week, my best is walking my dogs every day, because I want to be outside as much as possible. Eating less than my allowed calories (even if it is because of lethargy). And not giving a fuck about whether or not my teeth get brushed after lunch. And skipping cardio exercise, while still doing strength training.

Okay, so when compared against my goals, my best doesn’t look good enough. It looks downright pitiful. Until I got this email.

“Doing your best at this exact moment is stellar!” – [my friend]

What? Doing my best is stellar? Are you sure? Cuz my goal sheet says otherwise.
That’s when I realized that my friend has something my goal sheet doesn’t – compassion.

Compassion allows us to recognize that each of us doing our best is not only good enough – it’s stellar! Doing our best is the absolute highest we can ask of ourselves. If I can’t see that as stellar, I need to adjust my thinking. And so I am working on that. I recognize my goal sheet for what it is – a piece of paper. When I created that paper, I fully believed I could achieve each one of those goals – and I could have, if life had stayed exactly the same.

Reality, on the other hand, has dictated a different path. Life didn’t stay the same, and my goals now seem unattainable. Well, some of them, anyway. What’s more important, though, is that the goals now look LESS IMPORTANT. I started the month thinking that attaining my goals was the important thing.

Now, thanks to my friend, I realize that doing my best is the important thing. While it’s nice to achieve my goals, it’s really just a way to measure myself. And if I don’t add compassion into the mix when I’m measuring myself, then I’m doing myself a disservice.

So, I may or may not achieve all the goals written on my goal sheet this month. I really will try to do so. However, if I don’t, my world will not come crashing down around my ears. Right here and now, I admit to being fully human. I accept that being human (rather than mechanical) means that I am unpredictable, that people and circumstances around me are unpredictable, and that life isn’t always going to be an exciting ride. Sometimes, the ride’s going to be bumpy, and I’m going to need to adjust to the changing terrain.

So, today, I am struggling with recognizing my best as stellar. Until I can truly hold that belief in my heart, I’m going to borrow my friend’s faith, and know that she sees my best as stellar, and that’s good enough for me right now.

We have 2018 Dates!

We know you have all been anxiously awaiting the dates for this year and we finally have them to give! SJW 2018 will be August 16-19th and we will be in Pigeon Forge, TN.

Hold onto your hats kids because the early bird price for this year is $200 until May 1st. After May 1st the price will go to $225. Attendance this year will be capped at 40 people so get your registration in sooner rather than later! The first floor of the cabin is handicap accessible this year. We are working toward becoming more accessible as we grow. Below are a few pictures of the new cabin.

We can’t wait to see you all on the mountain!

             

We need YOUR help for the website!

If you have attended SJW in the past, what we need from you if you are willing to help out, is a comment, recommendation or reference (however you think of it) for a new section of “Notes from Attendees”. We want new folks who come to the website and the mountain to be able to hear from previous attendees. They can read about what the experience was like for you, what you came away with, any tips you have, etc. If you wish to include your name/Fetlife name with your note, please sign the note as you want your name to appear.

Please email them to: registration@submissivejourneyweekend.com

We hope you are doing well and thriving!

Sincerely,
Your SJW Team

Sailing from Fear to Fierce in 2018!

How do you sail out of the turbulence of fear into the waters of being fierce in living our lives? This year we will be exploring and shaping our resilience. This trait isn’t simply about strength as many people think. Resilience is actually very flexible and speaks to heart, malleability, adaptability, suppleness and the ability to bounce back. That’s just the tip of the treasure bounty when you look into the depths of resilience! We often look at the fortitude of others and overlook our own because it doesn’t look like that of those we admire for their endurance. There is so much that we overlook in our own power of perseverance that can be tapped into in order to help us be fabulously fierce. Let’s explore our resilience together and help each other discover the fierceness of spirit we all possess on some level!

 

Don’t Despair, We Are Working Hard On 2018!

We know you are all excited and anxious for the 2018 dates; we are too. We haven’t forgotten and are working hard to get dates and location set up.

As many of you know the fires earlier this year in Tennessee created cabin and scheduling issues out of our control. We got the cabin that we could at the time but it was definitely not a good fit for us. So, we are scouring locations and gathering information once again to try and find a place that suits our needs; chief among them being handicap accessible and having appropriate class space. We listened to your feedback in from the surveys and what you have told us directly and are working to make as much as possible come to fruition.

We can tell you that it looks as though we will be having SJW in the fall again in 2018. We are working to have the location and dates for you by the end of January so that you can start planning too!

We appreciate your patience with us as we go through the location changes and grow; you all are awesome in your support!

In service,
Cricket, Mags, Talina & Zilah